Sexuality:
The best way I could describe somebody I'd be intimate with, is if I 'vibe' with them, it's hard to describe, but there's always somebody who you feel you get along with way better than other people, somebody you label as a best friend instead of just friends. You have a lot in common, or common hobbies or mental patterns, etc. That's how I work sexually, I want to KNOW somebody and be comfy with them, not just think they are hot or label out any specific part of them that attracts me. Mental connection matters more than anything physical.
**Encephalaroace**, or **encie aroace**, is a term for one who is both encephalosexual and encephaloromantic. This is an a-spec identity in which one does not experience sexual or romantic attraction until an intellectual bond is formed, or until one experiences mental attraction. An intellectual bond is related to sharing of wisdom, knowledge, hobbies, aspirations, and interests. One can only experience sexual/romantic attraction to those whom they intellectually bond with and/or experience mental attraction to. However, this does not mean one will be sexually/romantically attracted to *everyone* they intellectually bond with/experience mental attraction to. It just opens it up as a possibility.
This is *not* "sexual/romantic attraction to smart individuals," nor is it a sexual/romantic orientation which one can use to gatekeep intelligence. It is only to be used in the context of mental attraction and close intellectual bonds. For example, one who loves music, or knowledge relating to it, may experience attraction to those that they can talk about music with.
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