Relationship Anarchy: Basically, it's freedom in the purest sense. I am my own person and who I choose to hang out with, have sex with, or even fall in love with. My relationship with a person is set by discussion of boundaries and how I feel and how they feel, purely on a one-to-one basis. Every relationship I have is unique in itself. It's open poly, kind of. But each relationship is walled off completely from others like the spokes of a bicycle wheel, with no relation or hierarchy to each other, which is how poly typically works. I have experiences with my relationships at the level we want with each other, and the boundaries we have with each other. Regardless of if that relationship is 'just friends' to 'IRL partners' and everything in between people shouldn't worry about who means what to me, as I define who you are to me solely by who YOU are, and what boundaries WE discussed, not anyone else.

A relationship anarchist does not assign special value to a relationship because it includes sex. A relationship anarchist does not assign special value to a relationship because it includes romance, if they even acknowledge romance as a distinct emotion or set of behaviors in the first place. A relationship anarchist begins from a place of assuming total freedom and flexibility as the one in charge of their personal relationships, and decides on a case-by-case basis what they want each relationship to look like. They may have sex with more than one person, they may be celibate their whole lives, they may live with someone they aren’t having sex with, they may live alone no matter what, they may raise a child with one sexual partner or multiple sexual partners, they may raise a child with a nonsexual partner, they may have highly physical/sensual relationships with multiple people simultaneously (some or all of whom are not sexually and/or romantically involved with them), etc

A good article detailing RA further:

What Is Relationship Anarchy? A Radical Approach To Love & Friendship

To help describe Relationship Anarchy and Encephalaroace a bit better:

For relationships in general, the best way I think i could describe using labels (like lovers, boyfriends, girlfriend, partners, etc), even tho i really don't personally like using them at all, is i tend to use them as a 'tags' system, not as an expectation of behavior.

We tend to use labels in the same way an image board site (like e6**) uses tags to describe a picture, where there isn't 1 singular label that could accurate describe a picture, there is not one singular tag that could accurately describe a relationship either.

The tag/label doesn't exist until we know for sure we fit the tag, not the other way around like traditional relationships tend to run (like if you say partner, there's certain societal expectations attached to that label) For example, let's say a person I am 'with' has these tags, in no particular order (like, these are what could be in your library book): best friend gaming buddy deep talks person comfy in depth knowledge happy vibes friend anchor/rock platonic alterous sexual familial romantic shared special interests understanding no mask needed caretaker safety person etc

all labels are interchangeable as the relationship develop and change, but the way I relate to you, or whoever, is entirely unique and specific to us, in the same way every picture is unique, thus the need for many multiple tags to more accurately describe it.

Below are some simple image explanation and examples:

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"I have love..." (cont. first image)